House of H... Heaven?

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Better to be safe...

Ways to examine ourselves. Always have ourselves checked ladies, either self check or yearly pap smear. Better to be safe then sorry. My role models are my mum and Giuliana and I totally support the 3 courses : Pink for Breast Cancer, Purple for Domestic Violence and Teal for Ovarian Cancer.

Hit-and-Run Toddler 'Critical'

@SuAvaTia: Hit-and-Run Toddler 'Critical': Utterly beyond belief yes. But to be in a situation where you cannot help but think of what happens to you for the rest of your life if you did help is even worst! F***ked up justice /system where you no longer can help out of the goodness of your heart and be heard as being good.

Its the same everywhere now. If you help somebody, usually than most, a tit for tat. I scratch yours, you scratch mine.

If its regarding reasonable favours then it should be fine. But when it comes to your livelihood?

I still love helping sincerely without seeking anything in return except blessings from God (if he decides to give it). You do a good deed and the deed goes back to you. Though I dont seek for good to come instantaneously or 10 years later, at least my conscience is clear.

I try to treat others as how I want to be treated.

Can we do that please?

Sorry because of the pain...

I am sorry that I have had to take a break from posting since I was quite tied up with workload and at the same time I have been having this very bad case of menstrual cramps. Sometimes, after Advil and Synflex, still can't make any better. At times, my menstrual cramps got so awful that I end up curled up on the floor. I googled and found this at one of the articles saying that...


Sex Cures Menstrual Cramps

Some people say that instead of anesthetic pills prescribed by doctors a woman can try having sex to ease pain during menstruation. The anesthetic effect of sex is connected with relaxation of organism and output of endorphins that are universally known as ‘hormones of happiness. Unfortunately orgasm does not produce a universal effect on all people. Some women on the contrary may feel more intense menstrual pain after having orgasm. Menstrual pain arises from a disbalance between sex hormones, progesterone first of all and prostaglandins that stimulate uterine contraction. An excessive amount of prostaglandins causes spasms of smooth uterine muscles and consequently pain. Oxytocins that also upsurge during orgasm produce the same effect upon uterine muscles that prostaglandins do. In other words, it is difficult to say beforehand what will be the balance between hormones of every particular woman having menstruation and experiencing orgasm. But it is a mistake to believe that sexual activity may help women suffering from serious pains because lingering and excruciating pain may be the symptom of serious gynecological diseases.

Link:
Sex treats everything

To me, it is going to be too painful, too dirty and definitely not comfortable at all.

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What If I’d Never Met My Husband?

Published on September 2, 2009 by Sonja Lyubomirsky in How of Happiness

The researchers show that people prompted to write about how a positive event may not have happened experience a greater uptick in mood than those prompted to describe the positive event. In their most persuasive study, individuals in committed relationships wrote for 15 to 20 minutes about how they might never have met and connected with their partners. Others wrote
instead about the reverse - that is, how they did meet, start dating, and end up with their partners. Several control conditions, which involved writing about one's typical day or about one's friendships, were included as well. The biggest increase in satisfaction with the relationship occurred not in the group that pondered the sunny beginnings of their union but in the "mental subtraction" group.

Why does "subtracting" a love, a triumph, or a dash of good fortune from our lives give us a bigger boost than simply savoring their reality? According to University of Virginia social psychologist Minkyung Koo and colleagues, the key mechanism is that thinking about how an event might never have come to pass renders it more mysterious and more surprising. Prior research has shown that surprise - and its cousins novelty, unexpectedness, variety, uncertainty, and unpredictability - is associated with more intense and more durable emotional reactions. In our own laboratories, Ken Sheldon and I have been testing the notion that surprise and variety can slow the rate at which people adapt to such life changes as buying a new condo or hybrid, marrying Mr. Right, or earning a coveted promotion. Any event or activity that yields novel and frequently surprising experiences and opportunities is likely to capture our attention and trigger frequent memories and thoughts about it. Surprises entice our attention and compel us to explain them, thereby maintaining the freshness, meaning, and pleasure of an experience. The intriguing hypothesis offered by Koo and her coauthors is that people can take active steps to elevate their moods by deliberately thinking about how an event is surprising.

An interesting twist is that people appear to be largely ignorant of this phenomenon. In the same paper, the researchers describe a separate set of individuals who were simply asked to imagine reflecting on how they met or might never have met their partners. These forecasters predicted that dwelling on how their relationship might not have been would dampen their spirits.

These findings lead us to a puzzle. Readers of both popular psychology and academic journals have undoubtedly taken notice of a growing literature on the benefits of gratitude - a body of work suggesting that "counting our blessings" (or reviewing the positive circumstances of our lives) makes us happier. Previous studies have shown that listing things for which we are thankful or writing a gratitude letter to a person who has made a difference produces increases in well-being and appears to neutralize negative emotions. Do Koo and colleagues' research findings contradict the common wisdom and empirical support for the happiness-boosting power of expressing gratitude? I don't believe they do. After all, how else do we strive to appreciate the good things in our lives - our health, our spouse, our garden, our 401k balances (if we're lucky to still have them) - if not by implicitly imagining what life would be like without them? To be grateful for our eyesight, we imagine what it would feel like to be blind; to appreciate our next-door colleague, we contemplate what our work days would be like if he resigned. So, without even realizing it, people may already be quite proficient at the strategy of mentally subtracting positive events.

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— Douglas MacArthur

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All About Ms. Jane...

1) What is your wake up and go outfit?
Jeans, palazo pants with tshirt, shirt or blouse


2) What is your preferred look for events?
Depends on the event but fun girly dresses or some nice blouses with tight pants or flare jeans with blazer are always safe


3) Are you a dieter or a gym freak?
I usually have a ritual of never eating after 8pm (except attending events or chilling with friends or on weekends). Sleep for 6-7 hours a day. Breakfast is a must and either cereals with fresh milk on weekdays or some heavy ones on weekends. Eating 3 times a day and hardly skips a meal. And also, water (either warm or room temp). I hardly drink cold or sweet drinks. 


4) What are your guilty pleasures?
Chocolates and milk shakes! 


5) How do you relax and unwind after a day of work?
Used to be a warm bath, but now, I need my massage chair more. And some nice movies while lying on the bed


6) Favorite places to go?
Eat : Alexis
Shop : Zara
Chill : Karaoke or drink sessions
Get Beautified : Sothys BV/OU


7) When you want to get away from it all, you...
Shop or watching dvds back to back. And read some great books/magz


8) Complete : "For me, fashion is...
Classic & Eternal


9) Your motto in life and love?
Sincere, Caring, Responsible, Honest and Loving

Confession on a Monday morning...

This blog is precisely about the things that I love and like. It could be simply about anything or everything. From clothes to shoes to bags to make up kits to skincare products to travelling or even food and drinks. I chose to write about what I perceive things happen in life. And in a positive way that it may seems as if my life is all about the stuff that I write about. But of course, life is simply more complicated than that. No matter how good the life I am living, I will always find others more interesting, wonderful or simply even better. I rarely look at myself and be grateful with what I already have. And at times, I focus on the things that I do not have, the things I long to possess. I pray and hope that I will remain true to myself no matter what. I am still me. "Dear Allah, please help me to be a better person and I pray for having a better health." I or we can live a good life if we decide so. So, take a good look at ourselves and be grateful for everything. Have a good day lovelies!

Enjoy Your Day!

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Thank you to all of you who continue to read and support In My Own Words by Ms. Jane & Friends and welcome to any new readers. I appreciate you all more than I can say. Wishing each and every one of you a splendid sunday. Hope you are having a wonderful time as much as I enjoyed mine. Hugs!

The Flattering Points On Woman's Body...

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I got this from a book and it mentioned there that there are points on every woman's figure that are almost universally delicate and feminine. Such as, the wrists, the ankles and the collarbone. Making them visible, whether it is via a bracelet-sleeve jacket, a pair of cropped jeans or a V-neck top is always flattering. I guess, until now, I have yet to meet a lady, who is completely happy with her figure. As for myself, I will never love my thighs. It does not matter how much my weight may fluctuate, but my upper legs stay the same. (To me, they are short and wide). You can pick anything apart, which is why I always think it is best to overlook those parts of your body that you do not love, in favor of loving the other parts of your body. So, I will try to ignore my upper thighs, and try to show off more on the other parts instead. Try that and maybe that will make us feel better! :)

Shopping for Bags/Handbags...

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I got this from a book and I think I should share it with you. Who does not want a perfect bag right? So firstly, you have to assess how much the bag weighs when empty. If you are like me, I schlep around significantly more than a day's essentials (like my 2 purse, a make up bag, a card holder, pens holder, 2 phones, set of keys and a small note book), which it can be quite heavy! So, you have to make sure that you are starting with a piece of leather or canvas that does not weigh several kilos. And beware of the extraneous hardware. (Making our partner to carry it for us, is so not cool or good solution). When you are at the store, take out all the paper stuffing, and put the contents from your own bag in there. Does it all fit? Does the bag hang well? If it does, then.. IT'S OK TO HAVE IT! 


Another thing, make sure you are considering all the minors like : Are you putting your laptop in there? Do you walk a lot? (If yes, a cross-body satchel is a good solution for hauling a lot of weight over a long period of time, apart from allows us to keep our hands free and it's also good for travelling. I personally think Alexa from Mulberry is a good travelling bag, can be used as shoulder, hand and sling). Do you leave your pens in the bag uncapped? (If yes, we can get either black or navy for the inner).


Try that and happy shopping!

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Q & A : Shoes...

If I could ban shoes, what would it be?


So far, crocs & high heel sneakers

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And what I can't leave without?


All sort of wedges, flats, peep-toe and sling styles 

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A Shoe Wardrobe...

I got this from a book and think I should share it with you too. The categories here are pretty general. The specifics are totally up to our own taste. But if we hit all the notes below, we will be covered for all of life's main events...


Flat : From plain ballerina styles to something patent or colorful and it has to be comfortable. 

Sandal : From plain sandal styles to something patent or colorful/embellished.

Wedge : From plain wedge styles to something patent or colorful and course, it has to be light and comfortable. 

Court : We should have at least one black pair, classic is best. Another one in a fun color.

Peep-Toe : Think these are quite sexy, and subtly revealing. 

Embellished : A pair that is perfect for a party to a simple black dress/cocktail event. So either jewels, sequins or bright colors.

Gladiator : These are quite fun option apart from sandal.

Boots : Whether we prefer flat or heeled. A classic style is best. 

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