House of H... Heaven?

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Better to be safe...

Ways to examine ourselves. Always have ourselves checked ladies, either self check or yearly pap smear. Better to be safe then sorry. My role models are my mum and Giuliana and I totally support the 3 courses : Pink for Breast Cancer, Purple for Domestic Violence and Teal for Ovarian Cancer.

Hit-and-Run Toddler 'Critical'

@SuAvaTia: Hit-and-Run Toddler 'Critical': Utterly beyond belief yes. But to be in a situation where you cannot help but think of what happens to you for the rest of your life if you did help is even worst! F***ked up justice /system where you no longer can help out of the goodness of your heart and be heard as being good.

Its the same everywhere now. If you help somebody, usually than most, a tit for tat. I scratch yours, you scratch mine.

If its regarding reasonable favours then it should be fine. But when it comes to your livelihood?

I still love helping sincerely without seeking anything in return except blessings from God (if he decides to give it). You do a good deed and the deed goes back to you. Though I dont seek for good to come instantaneously or 10 years later, at least my conscience is clear.

I try to treat others as how I want to be treated.

Can we do that please?

Sorry because of the pain...

I am sorry that I have had to take a break from posting since I was quite tied up with workload and at the same time I have been having this very bad case of menstrual cramps. Sometimes, after Advil and Synflex, still can't make any better. At times, my menstrual cramps got so awful that I end up curled up on the floor. I googled and found this at one of the articles saying that...


Sex Cures Menstrual Cramps

Some people say that instead of anesthetic pills prescribed by doctors a woman can try having sex to ease pain during menstruation. The anesthetic effect of sex is connected with relaxation of organism and output of endorphins that are universally known as ‘hormones of happiness. Unfortunately orgasm does not produce a universal effect on all people. Some women on the contrary may feel more intense menstrual pain after having orgasm. Menstrual pain arises from a disbalance between sex hormones, progesterone first of all and prostaglandins that stimulate uterine contraction. An excessive amount of prostaglandins causes spasms of smooth uterine muscles and consequently pain. Oxytocins that also upsurge during orgasm produce the same effect upon uterine muscles that prostaglandins do. In other words, it is difficult to say beforehand what will be the balance between hormones of every particular woman having menstruation and experiencing orgasm. But it is a mistake to believe that sexual activity may help women suffering from serious pains because lingering and excruciating pain may be the symptom of serious gynecological diseases.

Link:
Sex treats everything

To me, it is going to be too painful, too dirty and definitely not comfortable at all.

How to Check for Breast Cancer - For Dummies

@SuAvaTia: How to Check for Breast Cancer - For Dummies: One woman in nine will develop breast cancer in the United States. Because of this risk, every woman must know how to do a breast self-exam.

I Feel Like...

@SuAvaTia: I Feel Like...: Having this then wash it off with this! and with this cooling drink Blisss!

10 Must-Try Sweets in Paris

@SuAvaTia: 10 Must-Try Sweets in Paris: SLIDESHOW: 10 Must-Try Sweets in Paris [Photographs: Kathy YL Chan] Paris is heaven for anyone with a sweet tooth, but you already knew that

Mascara's Reflections on Life's Lil Treasures: 5 years of warm hugs & butterfly kisses. Happy bir...

Mascara's Reflections on Life's Lil Treasures: 5 years of warm hugs & butterfly kisses. Happy bir...: ‎It has been a looooong, colourful journey since I first held him in my arms. His arrival into this world was accompanied with a loud, furi...

What If I’d Never Met My Husband?

Published on September 2, 2009 by Sonja Lyubomirsky in How of Happiness

The researchers show that people prompted to write about how a positive event may not have happened experience a greater uptick in mood than those prompted to describe the positive event. In their most persuasive study, individuals in committed relationships wrote for 15 to 20 minutes about how they might never have met and connected with their partners. Others wrote
instead about the reverse - that is, how they did meet, start dating, and end up with their partners. Several control conditions, which involved writing about one's typical day or about one's friendships, were included as well. The biggest increase in satisfaction with the relationship occurred not in the group that pondered the sunny beginnings of their union but in the "mental subtraction" group.

Why does "subtracting" a love, a triumph, or a dash of good fortune from our lives give us a bigger boost than simply savoring their reality? According to University of Virginia social psychologist Minkyung Koo and colleagues, the key mechanism is that thinking about how an event might never have come to pass renders it more mysterious and more surprising. Prior research has shown that surprise - and its cousins novelty, unexpectedness, variety, uncertainty, and unpredictability - is associated with more intense and more durable emotional reactions. In our own laboratories, Ken Sheldon and I have been testing the notion that surprise and variety can slow the rate at which people adapt to such life changes as buying a new condo or hybrid, marrying Mr. Right, or earning a coveted promotion. Any event or activity that yields novel and frequently surprising experiences and opportunities is likely to capture our attention and trigger frequent memories and thoughts about it. Surprises entice our attention and compel us to explain them, thereby maintaining the freshness, meaning, and pleasure of an experience. The intriguing hypothesis offered by Koo and her coauthors is that people can take active steps to elevate their moods by deliberately thinking about how an event is surprising.

An interesting twist is that people appear to be largely ignorant of this phenomenon. In the same paper, the researchers describe a separate set of individuals who were simply asked to imagine reflecting on how they met or might never have met their partners. These forecasters predicted that dwelling on how their relationship might not have been would dampen their spirits.

These findings lead us to a puzzle. Readers of both popular psychology and academic journals have undoubtedly taken notice of a growing literature on the benefits of gratitude - a body of work suggesting that "counting our blessings" (or reviewing the positive circumstances of our lives) makes us happier. Previous studies have shown that listing things for which we are thankful or writing a gratitude letter to a person who has made a difference produces increases in well-being and appears to neutralize negative emotions. Do Koo and colleagues' research findings contradict the common wisdom and empirical support for the happiness-boosting power of expressing gratitude? I don't believe they do. After all, how else do we strive to appreciate the good things in our lives - our health, our spouse, our garden, our 401k balances (if we're lucky to still have them) - if not by implicitly imagining what life would be like without them? To be grateful for our eyesight, we imagine what it would feel like to be blind; to appreciate our next-door colleague, we contemplate what our work days would be like if he resigned. So, without even realizing it, people may already be quite proficient at the strategy of mentally subtracting positive events.

@SuAvaTia: Are We Communicating?

@SuAvaTia: Are We Communicating?: In conversation, the main goal is to repair and connect, not to accuse and blame. Verbal expression is good for healing, but can be a means ...