-My Sanctuary-: Artikel No 4: Rasis adalah subjektif. Sila fahami ...

-My Sanctuary-: Artikel No 4: Rasis adalah subjektif. Sila fahami ...: Read, analyze, verify and try to understand. Always look at the source. Always doubt the source and question the credibility.

-My Sanctuary-: Your Friends are a Reflection of Yourself

-My Sanctuary-: Your Friends are a Reflection of Yourself:

Absolutely love this post by Vivy at http://www.proudduck.com/. Click on link for the full post by Vivy. 

Its so true about what she describes on friendship. Especially the statement in blue below.

In the recent years, I have had my fair share of close relationships with male and female. I have come to realize that you cant always divulge to every Tom/Tina, Dick/Dina & Harry/Harriet. You just seriously cant.

There will be those who uses the information about you to twist it around to benefit him/her. There will also be those who likes to prod here and there to assert him/herself as being extra nosy but with no relevance but just to alleviate him/her as a ms/mr Know it All.

I have realized especially commencing 2013 that I shall have enough of being with those who makes me cringe, speak or think bad thoughts and any of the negative vibes.

I choose to be with those who wants to be with me. I love to surround myself with those who I can truly relate and can be myself without any judgements flung at me as to what I wear, say or think. Crude jokes acceptable in front of me but not behind me.

I could totally relate to what Vivy explained about. I have maybe 2 hands of my close girlfriends. They are those who I have posted photos with off and on or speak off more than once in a while.

Its these people that I can safely share my dreams, my aspirations, my positivity or any of my worries. 

But only you can decide who you want to be friends with.

For me, I choose those who are real and honest to themselves, speak of good and aspires to be true to themselves wherever they are.

Your friends are a reflection of yourself. So surround yourself with good people. Insyaallah, we’ll all want to change to be better too.

Find good friends and most importantly, be a good friend too.

The Secret Daughter - My Review

-My Sanctuary-: The Secret Daughter - My Review:

 

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http://shilpigowda.com/gowda-overview.htm

Despite my TO READ list which I have been updating every now and then in my previous posts, I ended up buying a book recommended at MPH and which was on sale last Christmas. 

It was so apt with the moment that I was in when I read it, while I was in Brunei visiting my parents. My father is currently working there for the past 7 years. 

I was emotionally connected to the book instantaneously. The author addressed the issues of a mother who is passionate in having kids and the emotional turmoils she had to endure when she physically could not conceive.

I shared similar concerns as I am not blessed like some mothers who is able to conceive naturally and easily. I cant imagine myself if I am actually her, to not being able to conceive forever.

Being a mother has taught me a lot and I am still open in reading anything new on parenting skills. Reading a book is very much different than having to apply to your child. I am blessed that I am able to go through the experience with my girls when there are so many women who are trying to conceive.

The author also wrote about a woman who was able to conceive naturally yet was unable to keep her daughters due to cultural reasons. In the Indian culture, having sons are celebrated more. More so at that particularly time the mothers were in. 

It is so ironic. Women who wants to have kids and is not able to conceive against women who are able and have disposed of their duties by either murdering or giving the baby up for adoption.

That is life. The harsh facts of life determines what you do. The unfairness is apparent however with the cultural intervention, it seems natural. 

The book solidified my passion to become a mother who will nurture her children with the right values but at the same time instill fun to anything and everything that they do. 

It is all about having the right balance. Very simple to want and imagine but very difficult to carry out. 

Let's not give up. 

To the mothers reading this, let's treasure our children and always remember that to be able to conceive and have healthy babies being born are miracles in itself.

To the women hoping to be mothers, please do not give up. There is always a way to shower all the love that you have. Be it to your natural family or to any strangers.

Here's a reader's review of the book via http://www.theglobeandmail.com/arts/books-and-media/review-secret-daughter-by-shilpi-somaya-gowda/article1374464/

Knowing Yourself

-My Sanctuary-: Knowing Yourself:

Listen to your heart. Ask yourself. Debate with the inner goddess. Rationalize with you, yourself and you. Its about understand your wants, your needs, your desires.

What do you want to achieve? 

Career wise. Family. Personal growth. Spiritually.....(read on)