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Despite my TO READ list which I have been updating every now and then in my previous posts, I ended up buying a book recommended at MPH and which was on sale last Christmas.
It was so apt with the moment that I was in when I read it, while I was in Brunei visiting my parents. My father is currently working there for the past 7 years.
I was emotionally connected to the book instantaneously. The author addressed the issues of a mother who is passionate in having kids and the emotional turmoils she had to endure when she physically could not conceive.
I shared similar concerns as I am not blessed like some mothers who is able to conceive naturally and easily. I cant imagine myself if I am actually her, to not being able to conceive forever.
Being a mother has taught me a lot and I am still open in reading anything new on parenting skills. Reading a book is very much different than having to apply to your child. I am blessed that I am able to go through the experience with my girls when there are so many women who are trying to conceive.
The author also wrote about a woman who was able to conceive naturally yet was unable to keep her daughters due to cultural reasons. In the Indian culture, having sons are celebrated more. More so at that particularly time the mothers were in.
It is so ironic. Women who wants to have kids and is not able to conceive against women who are able and have disposed of their duties by either murdering or giving the baby up for adoption.
That is life. The harsh facts of life determines what you do. The unfairness is apparent however with the cultural intervention, it seems natural.
The book solidified my passion to become a mother who will nurture her children with the right values but at the same time instill fun to anything and everything that they do.
It is all about having the right balance. Very simple to want and imagine but very difficult to carry out.
Let's not give up.
I shared similar concerns as I am not blessed like some mothers who is able to conceive naturally and easily. I cant imagine myself if I am actually her, to not being able to conceive forever.
Being a mother has taught me a lot and I am still open in reading anything new on parenting skills. Reading a book is very much different than having to apply to your child. I am blessed that I am able to go through the experience with my girls when there are so many women who are trying to conceive.
The author also wrote about a woman who was able to conceive naturally yet was unable to keep her daughters due to cultural reasons. In the Indian culture, having sons are celebrated more. More so at that particularly time the mothers were in.
It is so ironic. Women who wants to have kids and is not able to conceive against women who are able and have disposed of their duties by either murdering or giving the baby up for adoption.
That is life. The harsh facts of life determines what you do. The unfairness is apparent however with the cultural intervention, it seems natural.
The book solidified my passion to become a mother who will nurture her children with the right values but at the same time instill fun to anything and everything that they do.
It is all about having the right balance. Very simple to want and imagine but very difficult to carry out.
Let's not give up.
To the mothers reading this, let's treasure our children and always remember that to be able to conceive and have healthy babies being born are miracles in itself.
To the women hoping to be mothers, please do not give up. There is always a way to shower all the love that you have. Be it to your natural family or to any strangers.
Here's a reader's review of the book via http://www.theglobeandmail.com/arts/books-and-media/review-secret-daughter-by-shilpi-somaya-gowda/article1374464/
To the women hoping to be mothers, please do not give up. There is always a way to shower all the love that you have. Be it to your natural family or to any strangers.
Here's a reader's review of the book via http://www.theglobeandmail.com/arts/books-and-media/review-secret-daughter-by-shilpi-somaya-gowda/article1374464/
